There are so many sad stories in the world, there are so many people who carry a heavy burden and are suffering. Their eyes tell the story, their behavior as well. Sometimes it feels like if you don’t shut down you might feel theirs besides yours. And it will crush you. It’s even more crushing when you see children with tragic family lives, with heaviness and sadness to their days. There is nothing you can do, you can only offer some support and advice.
What I always tell them and myself is this: your burden doesn’t have to define you. You define yourself. This is a bump in your very long road. Of course, it feels like it’s insurmountable, like it will never end and it might feel like it will crush you. But it won’t and it will end. A sad chapter doesn’t make the book sad. What you need to focus on is what happens later. Will you carry it with you and let it influence the rest of your life negatively, or will you turn it into a lesson and move on from it? The thing is that you can’t influence the world and the people in it. Quite plainly said: shit happens. However, you can influence how it affects you. Whether it affects you.
Suffering and hard times are part of everyone’s lives and it’s a part of your past but you can keep it there and not allow it into your future. We’re 10% of what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.